Month: March 2023

You can always make a difference

You Can Always Make a Difference

Sometimes you can see so many problems and opportunities, but it feels like you can’t do anything about them. You can’t control the leaders above you.You can’t control your colleagues. You can’t control the people you lead. But the reality is that you can always make a difference. You can INFLUENCE the leaders above you, by…
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Assertive selfishness is not equal to aggressive selfishness

Assertive Selfishness is not equal to Aggressive Selfishness

“Selfish” is not a four-letter word. We’re taught from infancy that being selfish is bad.We condition ourselves to believe we must be selfLESS to be good. That story we tell ourselves results in frustration, exhaustion, and burnout. We’re missing the nuances of being selfish. While it’s advisable to avoid being “aggressively selfish” – displaying toxic…
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Dealing with performance issues steps

Dealing with Performance Problems

Punishment and avoidance rarely work. Approach performance issues with curiosity and empathy and you may find the discussion and solution are less difficult than you anticipated: When discussing and resolving performance issues: 🟠Prepare – prepare yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally 🟠Present – present the situation as you see it 🟠Discover – understand what is going…
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Text: The most important safe space is the one in your own head Image: person hugging themselves

The Most Important Safe Space

Imposter syndrome.Fear.Doubt.Self-criticism.Self-punishment.Perfectionism. The stories we tell ourselves can hold us back from developing and helping others develop. Becoming a more effective leader often starts with creating a safe space in our own heads. 

Image of kids feet in large shoes

Stop Trying to Put Yourself In Someone Else’s Shoes

Imagine someone close to you complaining about their shoes. They’re too tight. They cause blisters.  There’s a weird bump at the toe. “Let me see,” you say as you slip your feet inside. “These aren’t too tight! And there is no weird bump!”  Empathy? Not really. Unsurprisingly, their size 12 shoes are not too tight for your size 9…
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Think of stress as your brain on fire - picture of brain on fire

Think of Stress as Your Brain on Fire

When you’re under stress, all your brain cares about is that it is on fire. Not the work you are trying to do.Not the lesson someone is trying to teach you.Not the conversation someone is trying to have with you.Not the goal you need to work on. It’s too preoccupied with the fire. It usually…
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