Month: June 2023

Talking at is not the same as talking with

Talk Less. Listen More.

We tend to confuse notification with communication. We say “I spoke with them about it,” when often we mean, “I spoke AT them about it.” I told them. Now why aren’t they doing it? I told them. Now why aren’t they excited? I told them. Now why aren’t they being creative? Effective communication is not…
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Understand stress response

Want to Stop People Pleasing, Indecisiveness, Perfectionism, or Controlling? 

Want to Stop People Pleasing, Indecisiveness, Perfectionism, or Controlling?  First recognize your actions as proactive behaviours. Stress is the body’s automatic response to a perceived threat. When our brain picks up on a possible threat, it tries to keep us safe. The physical response is instinctive – fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.  As we grow up, our…
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Leadership Catch Them Doing Things Well

Catch Them Doing Things Well

Knock, knock. “Do you have a minute?” They tense.  They’ve been working long hours, stressing about the project, and doing so many things well. And their manager only drops in when there’s a problem.  “Let’s get this over with,” they both think. 😞 “I’ve noticed you missed one of the stakeholders in your email communications. That…
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"Want to feel better? Make small goals to empty your "I Should Do That Bag" lighten the mental and emotional burden you carry everywhere you do" with a picture of a woman carrying a full backpack and looking down.

Want to Feel Better? Empty Your “I Should Do That Bag”

The “I Should Do That Bag.” We all have one. We tend to add to it frequently and without much strategy. It gets heavier and heavier, and we carry it everywhere we go. No wonder we are so exhausted. Getting out from under the mental and emotional burden of our heavy load requires being more strategic in what…
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