This week on the Humaning Made Easier Substack, I wrote about how my chiropractor gave me a long list of essential exercises, to be done multiple times a day, and I did none of them. That experience is why I believe in aiming high and setting the bar low. When leaders ask me how to…
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“I have an employee who keeps making mistakes. I’ve tried to address it. The mistakes keep happening. I am now at the point where I avoid the employee because I’m so frustrated. I don’t want to be a babysitter. I need them to just be an adult. What do I do?” Our thoughts influence our…
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I’ve been thinking about business a lot while I’m driving through curves. I learned from a racing instructor that eye lead on a curve is valuable. I learned from riding a motorcycle that on two wheels, eye lead moves from valuable to essential. Eye lead is where and how far ahead you look while you’re…
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After 22 years in the field of organizational development, and almost 50 years on this planet, I will tell you one thing I am certain about – we wait WAY too long to make the changes that are in our best interest. We wait until we are burnt out. We wait until the relationship is…
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My clients who have had the most success tend to want to blow things up. They come to me stressed, overwhelmed, unsure, and wanting to make changes. And once we’ve got them to a place of more ease, effectiveness, and enjoyment, their brains want to destroy it. Because to a brain that is used to…
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I can see the fire starting in his brain. The comment from his business partner has triggered something. I can’t see his adrenaline pumping. But I can see the shift into protection mode. His breathing speeding up. His posture changing. The glare that is hard to miss. His business partner picks up on it, too.…
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My favourite way to sabotage my efforts to help? Using the phrase “You should just…” “You should just tell them how you feel.”“You should just ignore their behaviour.”“You should just be kind.”“You should just fire them.”“You should just stop doing that.” If I’ve ever should-and-just-ed you, I’m sorry. I meant well. I also know now…
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Do you have interactions with others that constantly leave you feeling stressed, anxious, or tired? Maybe you’re taking their “hot potatoes.” Here’s how it happens. You interact with someone, and in that interaction, they feel shame. Suddenly, they’re “holding a hot potato.” Maybe you were honest or stood up for yourself in a kind way.…
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Think about the last time you tried to get someone to change something. Maybe as a manager. Maybe as a parent. Maybe as someone trying to do a little self-improvement. What did you do? How did it go? Typically, the answer is some version of: “I told them what was needed and why.” Maybe “I…
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I’ve seen it over and over and over again. Well-intentioned leaders playing Choose Your Own Adventure, day in and day out. Hoping their efforts get outcomes. Wondering if they’re doing it right. Battling turnover, low engagement, firefighting, errors, and re-work while feeling like they’re battling everyone else. Wondering why they’re burning out. Many of these…
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