Category: Self-Awareness, Development, and Care

Leadership Tip: You're not the only one who feels Unsure. In over their head. Conflict avoidant. Like they're failing. So. Stressed. Out.

You’re Not Alone

We tend to keep it all in. Afraid of what others might think. Might say. Might do. If they knew the truth. That we are often feeling Unsure. In over our heads. Conflict avoidant. Like we’re failing. Stressed. So stressed. We put on our brave faces and cross our fingers that the feelings won’t escape…
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Leadership Tip: Blame, shame, fear, and guilt keep us stuck. Picture of a person running on a hamster wheel with "blame, shame, fear, and guilt" beside it. Picture of a happy hamster drinking tea and eating cake with "empathy, understanding, and compassion" beside it

Want to Be A More Effective Leader? Break the Cycle

He was a senior leader who wanted great outcomes.  And yet he was stuck. Often, when a challenge came up, he’d respond ineffectively. Blaming, shaming, punishing.  He pointed the finger at everyone else. When inside, he was fighting the finger he knew pointed at him. He couldn’t take on the blame, shame, guilt, and fear. …
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Leadership tip: Without a level of personal confidence and emotional vulnerability, managers will often feel uncomfortable, even embarrassed, about having simple behavioural conversations with their employees - From The Truth About Employee Engagement by Patrick Lencioni

When You’re Resisting the Important Conversations

My suggestions were met with resistance.  Strong resistance.  “A team meeting?  That sounds awkward.”“One-on-ones, won’t that be weird?” We talked about the skills, approaches, and benefits.  And there was still resistance. That resistance took a little while to work through.  In a safe space, over time, we talked about what was really going on in…
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This is my learning from failure post

This is Learning from Failure in Action

A few weeks ago I failed. I had made a goal to write and send/post an article every week.And then I failed.  Twice. My lesson from that failure was to increase my planning window to more than three days. I’ll have been away for 6 days by the time you read this. And you’re reading…
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Leadership tip: Define your success by YOUR progress, not by how you measure up to THEIR perfection. With a picture of women climbing up a bar graph toward a lightbulb.

Choosing Progress Over Perfection

They’d say it’s not enough. The 10 minutes I exercise. It should be longer. Faster.More. It’s not enough. And I need to remind myself that this is more.It’s more per week.It’s earlier.It’s more intense. Than when I started. While I may get to their more, right now, I need to focus on my more.I nudge forward…
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Leadership Tip: Stressed? Overwhelmed? Exhausted? There are often signs that we need better boundaries. With picture of a person holding there head looking like they are experiencing stress and overwhelm.

Boundaries For the Win

She was stressed.  Overwhelmed.  And exhausted. She was taking on way more than she could or should. Be a team player.Don’t be selfish.Don’t say “no.”Care about others.  Help others.Don’t let anyone fail. You’re strong.  You’re resilient. Don’t let anyone down. She was drowning in her own truths.  She was curious about assertive behaviour.  Having boundaries.   Changing the…
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Leadership tip: the benefits are the goal

Rethinking Goals Can Create Success

Have you ever made a goal, done something else instead, and felt like you were failing? You’re not alone. When we create goals, we always have an underlying reason for the goal – our deeper “why?”  But we don’t always (rarely?) sit down to think about it.  We don’t get clear on our bigger objective.…
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Leadership Tip: It's never too late to pull things out of your "I Should Do That Bag"

Better Late Than Never

I started reading Watership Down this week. A goal at least 30 years in the making. Someone spoke of the book during a leadership development program last week.  The old orange-spined copy that sat for years on the bookshelves in my childhood basement sprang to mind. I’ve always meant to read it.  Have carried the…
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Leadership tip: As the year ends, ask yourself: What did I learn? What can I celebrate? What am I grateful for? What do I value? What will I focus on in 2024. With a picture of a person sitting cross-legged with a pencil and journal.

Reflection is Hard… and Worth It

If we’re being honest… I don’t love answering the questions that I spend much of my time encouraging other people to answer. They’re HARD!     It’s much easier for me to ask the questions.  Which is part of the reason I love my job.  But in the spirit of not indulging in hypocrisy, and knowing that…
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Power Squad Podcast: Things That Get in the Way of Change

Hopefully, you’ll find our conversations as interesting as we do! 🙂 Kristina Schmitt, Jenny Barkan, ACC, and I spend a lot of time sharing ideas and building on each other’s thoughts. We thought you might like to listen in as we explore topics that impact leaders and workplaces. Look for the “Power Squad” conversations as a…
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