Category: Thoughts, Feelings, Behaviour, Results

Leadership Tip: Breathe

Just Breathe

So much to do.Not enough time.Crap, I forgot about that…Oh no, I don’t have time for this…I’m not sure I can handle that today… No matter the season, your role or life situation, things can and often do feel overwhelming. Remember to breathe. Breathing deeply sends a message to your brain to calm down and…
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Power Squad Podcast: Things That Get in the Way of Change

Hopefully, you’ll find our conversations as interesting as we do! 🙂 Kristina Schmitt, Jenny Barkan, ACC, and I spend a lot of time sharing ideas and building on each other’s thoughts. We thought you might like to listen in as we explore topics that impact leaders and workplaces. Look for the “Power Squad” conversations as a…
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Sorry, but your mom gave you sh*tty advice

Sorry, But Your Mom Gave You Sh*tty Advice

Great leaders: ✔ Embrace and invite conflict ✔ Give honest feedback ✔ Say “no” to things that don’t align with values and priorities Leaders often struggle with these keys to success.Why? We were taught to “be nice” Fighting with siblings?“Be nice” Speaking your truth?“Be nice” Not willing to share?“Be nice” The challenge is that “be…
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Bravery is being afraid and doing it anyway

Is Discomfort Holding You Back?

There’s a misconception that contributes a lot to imposter syndrome and holds people back… It’s that being brave means not being nervous, anxious, afraid, or hesitant.  But the presence of fear does not mean the absence of bravery.  Bravery is being scared and doing it anyway. Feeling discomfort and leaning in. Not being certain, but…
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Dealing with difficult people situations

Stop Dealing With “Difficult People”

I have been trying to avoid labelling people as “difficult.” And choosing instead to label the situation as “difficult.” I adopted this thinking when I was asked to create a “Dealing With Difficult People” program. I wanted one of the key concepts to be that ‘navigating conflict is much easier when you see yourself as…
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Boundaries keep your bucket full

Boundaries Keep Your Bucket Full

I used to have poor boundaries. I had a hard time saying “no.” I felt guilty when I wasn’t giving 100% of myself to others. I felt bad when people were upset with something I had done to protect my well-being.  I was frustrated. Passive-aggressive.  Exhausted. I blamed others for “making me” these things. Which…
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Understand stress response

Want to Stop People Pleasing, Indecisiveness, Perfectionism, or Controlling? 

Want to Stop People Pleasing, Indecisiveness, Perfectionism, or Controlling?  First recognize your actions as proactive behaviours. Stress is the body’s automatic response to a perceived threat. When our brain picks up on a possible threat, it tries to keep us safe. The physical response is instinctive – fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.  As we grow up, our…
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Adjust core beliefs to imporve leadership effectiveness

Increase Leadership Effectiveness by Changing Core Beliefs

In a sense, we are all children in adult costumes. We navigate the world with a large set of core beliefs that are established in childhood.  Our reactions to situations, particularly stressful ones, tend to be ingrained, habitual, and automatic, drawing on our core beliefs.  The challenge is that our core beliefs are often flawed. …
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You can always make a difference

You Can Always Make a Difference

Sometimes you can see so many problems and opportunities, but it feels like you can’t do anything about them. You can’t control the leaders above you.You can’t control your colleagues. You can’t control the people you lead. But the reality is that you can always make a difference. You can INFLUENCE the leaders above you, by…
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Image of kids feet in large shoes

Stop Trying to Put Yourself In Someone Else’s Shoes

Imagine someone close to you complaining about their shoes. They’re too tight. They cause blisters.  There’s a weird bump at the toe. “Let me see,” you say as you slip your feet inside. “These aren’t too tight! And there is no weird bump!”  Empathy? Not really. Unsurprisingly, their size 12 shoes are not too tight for your size 9…
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