Improve your ability to have discussions that solve performance and interpersonal problems
Addressing problems and navigating conflict are vital to creating an organization where people can thrive
Yet, despite all the benefits, teams, leaders, and organizations struggle to address problems and navigate conflict effectively.
By avoiding difficult discussions or using approaches that create persistent and escalating problems, we negatively impact motivation, engagement, and teamwork and create an environment where neither people nor performance can thrive.
Delving into Difficult Discussions
is a multi-session program that offers ideas and exercises to help you improve your ability to have difficult discussions and solve performance and interpersonal problems.
Develop the thoughts and behaviours that lead to success
The Delving Into Difficult Discussions program helps you develop the thoughts and behaviours you need to plan and have conversations that lead to “win:win” outcomes, recognizing that success comes most easily when we perceive problems and conflict as positive, use emotional intelligence and assertive behaviours, and help others do the same.
When you apply the concepts in the program, you will find that many of the discussions you thought would be difficult are much easier than you expected.
Throughout this program you will be encouraged to develop new ways of thinking about and responding to the situations you face.
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Changing your thinking and behaviour is easiest when you go slow, have a chance to put ideas into action, and have support. We meet several times so that we can introduce concepts over time, support you to make small changes, and give you an opportunity to talk about what’s working and what isn’t.
Conversations relating to performance and interpersonal problems tend to feel and become difficult because they trigger the stress response, resulting in aggressive and passive behaviours that become barriers to success. In this session we’ll explore safe spaces, reducing stress by reframing the way we think, using emotional intelligence, and choosing behaviours that support us to get the results we’re looking for.
In this session, we’ll briefly discuss how systems thinking can help us have better conversations and more effectively solve problems. We’ll build upon the concept of creating safe spaces, reviewing the importance of the relationship and how to strengthen relationships to increase success. Finally, we’ll discuss what is involved in effective communication and some ideas on how to plan your communication.
To effectively address problems, we must first be able to clearly articulate what we were expecting to be happening or not happening. This can be challenging, which is one of the reasons we have performance and interpersonal issues in the first place. In this module, we discuss the importance of identifying and discerning between expectations, facts, and interpretations. We present ideas for timing and location, reinforcing the importance of the safe space and present an approach to use to set your discussion up for success. We also offer some ideas for providing and receiving feedback.
When attempting to address a problem and navigate conflict, you will likely encounter “protective behaviours.” There may be aggressive behaviours like getting defensive, yelling, blaming, and lying or passive behaviours like owning other people’s feelings or giving in to conflict. Effectively addressing a problem and navigating conflict requires knowing how to handle protective behaviours, including your own. You want to minimize the aggressive and passive behaviours that often show up in conflict so you can focus on the objective of working together to solve the problem. This module offers some more specific ways to apply the ideas presented in previous modules to increase your chances of having productive conversations and get the benefits of discussion and debate while minimizing the amount of protective behaviour.
Here’s the feedback we’re getting for Delving Into Difficult Discussions:
The strategies presented help me to self-reflect. Going through this program, I am more aware of my strengths and weaknesses.
Good discussion about the lesson’s ideas and it is easy for me to participate when my first reaction is usually to sit still and listen.
I like the prompts and examples provided to help guide us through upcoming difficult conversations. I feel this training program has already been beneficial from a work and personal perspective.
Lots of discussion and examples on how to apply the learnings. Reading them ahead of time allows time to digest the information and process the ideas, allowing a better application in session. I also appreciate the opportunity to think about questions ahead of time and ask them during a session rather than learning it all and not having time to develop those questions.
“I like that we get the opportunity to think over the material before joining the conversation. This allows me time to reflect on my experiences and prepare some questions/ideas to share to better expand my understanding of the material.