“Selfish” is not a four-letter word. We’re taught from infancy that being selfish is bad.We condition ourselves to believe we must be selfLESS to be good. That story we tell ourselves results in frustration, exhaustion, and burnout. We’re missing the nuances of being selfish. While it’s advisable to avoid being “aggressively selfish” – displaying toxic…
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Imagine someone close to you complaining about their shoes. They’re too tight. They cause blisters. There’s a weird bump at the toe. “Let me see,” you say as you slip your feet inside. “These aren’t too tight! And there is no weird bump!” Empathy? Not really. Unsurprisingly, their size 12 shoes are not too tight for your size 9…
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The Managers began to talk. Openly. Honestly. It took many hours of conversation and confidence in the pledge to maintain confidentiality. And they were ready to offer insights about challenges and opportunities. They had excellent observations and suggestions. They balanced the positives with the opportunities. They were constructive. They were empathetic. They continued to speak with respect. And they were not willing…
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“We don’t get a lot of complaints around here” It was true. People did not complain. – They did as they were told. – They put in the long hours needed to get their jobs done. – They made the most of the “open-door policy,” frequenting their manager’s office to ask questions and understand how the Manager…
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If you’re like many leaders, you’re spending a lot of your time, energy, and money in three main areas that are holding you back from doing your best to be productive, lead people, and achieve success: FIREFIGHTING 🧯 Managing emergencies, reacting to unexpected problems, trying to quickly resolve symptoms with a patchwork of temporary and…
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Every person has an emotional bucket for their relationships. We have a bucket for every relationship we are in, including our relationship with ourselves. When the bucket is full, we feel a high sense of trust and safety in the relationship. The bucket is filled with positive interactions that feel good and build trust, giving…
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What a dreadful situation. So many years of education. And yet I had never learned how to let somebody go. It was stressful for both of us, and I wasn’t sure what to say. I fumbled through the conversation I wasn’t sure how to tactfully explain to someone that they had performed their job so…
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