Tag: development

Leadership tip: Let’s stop rewarding high performers by throwing them into a job they aren’t trained for, offering them little training, clarity, or support, and hoping they’ll figure it out...

New Leaders Need More

Isn’t it funny that we reward people who do their job really well by:

Leadership tip: Define your success by YOUR progress, not by how you measure up to THEIR perfection. With a picture of women climbing up a bar graph toward a lightbulb.

Choosing Progress Over Perfection

They’d say it’s not enough. The 10 minutes I exercise. It should be longer. Faster.More. It’s not enough. And I need to remind myself that this is more.It’s more per week.It’s earlier.It’s more intense. Than when I started. While I may get to their more, right now, I need to focus on my more.I nudge forward…
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Leadership tip: Sometimes it’s not the goal that’s wrong, it’s the timing. with line art picture of hockey player holding a stick.

Is Your Timing Realistic?

My son joined local league hockey three years ago.He was 12.Had never played before. He had to create a goal for school.His goal was to get 10 goals in hockey that season.He got zero. And he didn’t give up. He learned what he needed to learn.He practiced.He tried. His third season is not yet over.He’s…
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Leadership Tip: Don't let failure be the end of your goal

Don’t Let A Failure Be the End of Your Goal

My goal was to write an article. I failed. I made a goal to write and send / post an article every week.I’ve kept it going for almost a year. And then I failed.  Twice. I took a week’s vacation. I didn’t plan far enough in advance. I returned to a holiday Monday.I hadn’t planned ahead.…
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Leadership Tip: To improve your workplace coaching Do More Celebrating small successes Asking questions Listening to understand Supporting critical thinking Creating mutually-agreed upon goals Do Less Blaming and punishing Talking at Interrupting Telling them what they should do Dictating goals

Your Definition of Coaching Impacts Your Results

Admittedly, I sometimes wince when I hear what people are doing in their “coaching” sessions. “We went through all of the tasks and answered their questions.” “We went through the next step of the discipline process.” “I told them what they were doing wrong, what they need to do differently, and what goal they needed…
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Leadership Tip: Goals Don't Have to Suck

Goals Don’t Have to Suck

Thankfully, the stomach bug didn’t ruin our entire holiday, and I got to see many friends over the last couple of weeks. One thing that stood out was the number of people who talked and complained about goals.  But the thing is, it’s not really goals that suck.  It’s usually the way we think about…
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Bravery is being afraid and doing it anyway

Is Discomfort Holding You Back?

There’s a misconception that contributes a lot to imposter syndrome and holds people back… It’s that being brave means not being nervous, anxious, afraid, or hesitant.  But the presence of fear does not mean the absence of bravery.  Bravery is being scared and doing it anyway. Feeling discomfort and leaning in. Not being certain, but…
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Boundaries keep your bucket full

Boundaries Keep Your Bucket Full

I used to have poor boundaries. I had a hard time saying “no.” I felt guilty when I wasn’t giving 100% of myself to others. I felt bad when people were upset with something I had done to protect my well-being.  I was frustrated. Passive-aggressive.  Exhausted. I blamed others for “making me” these things. Which…
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If it's worth doing well it may be worth doing it poorly

If It’s Worth Doing Well, It May Be Worth Doing Poorly

I knew I wanted to be exercising more.  I walk by the rowing machine many times a day. But I didn’t have time for exercise. Or so I told myself. Exercise in my mind was a minimum of 30 minutes. That’s what “they” say, isn’t it? And I felt unmotivated to try to fit 30 minutes into…
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Adjust core beliefs to imporve leadership effectiveness

Increase Leadership Effectiveness by Changing Core Beliefs

In a sense, we are all children in adult costumes. We navigate the world with a large set of core beliefs that are established in childhood.  Our reactions to situations, particularly stressful ones, tend to be ingrained, habitual, and automatic, drawing on our core beliefs.  The challenge is that our core beliefs are often flawed. …
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