Tag: leadership

Leadership tip: Let’s stop rewarding high performers by throwing them into a job they aren’t trained for, offering them little training, clarity, or support, and hoping they’ll figure it out...

New Leaders Need More

Isn’t it funny that we reward people who do their job really well by:

Leadership Tip: Maybe you don't need to learn HOW to have the DIFFICULT DISCUSSION Maybe you need to learn to STOP TRYING With cartoon images of 5 people at the bottom in various states of surprise.

Sometimes the Answer is Giving Up

Well-meaning, helpful people often ask: “How do I get through to them?” They’ve tried explaining it this way.They’ve tried explaining it that way.They’ve listened.They’ve asked questions.They’ve thought through their response for the 15th time.They’ve tried again.  And again.  And again.  And yet, the person they’re talking with still isn’t getting it. They’re blaming, attacking, and…
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Leadership tip: Define your success by YOUR progress, not by how you measure up to THEIR perfection. With a picture of women climbing up a bar graph toward a lightbulb.

Choosing Progress Over Perfection

They’d say it’s not enough. The 10 minutes I exercise. It should be longer. Faster.More. It’s not enough. And I need to remind myself that this is more.It’s more per week.It’s earlier.It’s more intense. Than when I started. While I may get to their more, right now, I need to focus on my more.I nudge forward…
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Leadership Tip: Stressed? Overwhelmed? Exhausted? There are often signs that we need better boundaries. With picture of a person holding there head looking like they are experiencing stress and overwhelm.

Boundaries For the Win

She was stressed.  Overwhelmed.  And exhausted. She was taking on way more than she could or should. Be a team player.Don’t be selfish.Don’t say “no.”Care about others.  Help others.Don’t let anyone fail. You’re strong.  You’re resilient. Don’t let anyone down. She was drowning in her own truths.  She was curious about assertive behaviour.  Having boundaries.   Changing the…
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Leadership tip: Sometimes it’s not the goal that’s wrong, it’s the timing. with line art picture of hockey player holding a stick.

Is Your Timing Realistic?

My son joined local league hockey three years ago.He was 12.Had never played before. He had to create a goal for school.His goal was to get 10 goals in hockey that season.He got zero. And he didn’t give up. He learned what he needed to learn.He practiced.He tried. His third season is not yet over.He’s…
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Leadership Tip: Don't let failure be the end of your goal

Don’t Let A Failure Be the End of Your Goal

My goal was to write an article. I failed. I made a goal to write and send / post an article every week.I’ve kept it going for almost a year. And then I failed.  Twice. I took a week’s vacation. I didn’t plan far enough in advance. I returned to a holiday Monday.I hadn’t planned ahead.…
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Leadership Tip: To improve your workplace coaching Do More Celebrating small successes Asking questions Listening to understand Supporting critical thinking Creating mutually-agreed upon goals Do Less Blaming and punishing Talking at Interrupting Telling them what they should do Dictating goals

Your Definition of Coaching Impacts Your Results

Admittedly, I sometimes wince when I hear what people are doing in their “coaching” sessions. “We went through all of the tasks and answered their questions.” “We went through the next step of the discipline process.” “I told them what they were doing wrong, what they need to do differently, and what goal they needed…
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Leadership Tip: You can know someone’s going through something without needing to know what someone’s going through.

Caring Doesn’t Have to Be Scary

They let me know they were going through something.  They might not be present.They might not be fully present.They might not contribute today. No details. But enough of a window into their personal life for me to: Be understandingAccommodateCheck-in Care. I advocate for getting results by getting to know, understanding, and supporting people – the whole…
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Leadership tip: "Easy" Leadership Goal: Celebrate 1 small victory per day (or week)

Looking For An Easy Leadership Goal?

We are so used to receiving only negative or no feedback. We tend to only get recognition or reward when we’ve accomplished “the big thing” and get little to no recognition for the little efforts and achievements along the way. We often label things as “no big deal” when they actually take a lot of…
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Leadership Tip: Goals Don't Have to Suck

Goals Don’t Have to Suck

Thankfully, the stomach bug didn’t ruin our entire holiday, and I got to see many friends over the last couple of weeks. One thing that stood out was the number of people who talked and complained about goals.  But the thing is, it’s not really goals that suck.  It’s usually the way we think about…
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