Tag: self care

Boundaries keep your bucket full

Boundaries Keep Your Bucket Full

I used to have poor boundaries. I had a hard time saying “no.” I felt guilty when I wasn’t giving 100% of myself to others. I felt bad when people were upset with something I had done to protect my well-being.  I was frustrated. Passive-aggressive.  Exhausted. I blamed others for “making me” these things. Which…
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Assertive selfishness is not equal to aggressive selfishness

Assertive Selfishness is not equal to Aggressive Selfishness

“Selfish” is not a four-letter word. We’re taught from infancy that being selfish is bad.We condition ourselves to believe we must be selfLESS to be good. That story we tell ourselves results in frustration, exhaustion, and burnout. We’re missing the nuances of being selfish. While it’s advisable to avoid being “aggressively selfish” – displaying toxic…
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